Tuesday 10 January 2017

The Shocking Reason Why a lecturer Failed a Female student after he slept with her Will Shock You.

A Facebook user, Judith Juahla, shared on her page that the said female undergraduate slept with her lecturer hoping to get an A, but was shocked when she saw an E because as she said, she didn’t fulfill the man’s se/xual desires.
Reports have it that she is an electrical engineering student at University of Nairobi and the lecturer was identified as Dr. Kiogora.


Lol… The story seems fishy though, given that she shared it to the whole public… Just like that…
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A Lesson For All Ladies: See How An Abortion Affects A Woman’s Life!!


All people already divided into those, who are in favor of abortions, and against them. However, it’s not surprisingly, because not everyone can bring oneself to this step.
Also, not everyone sees the right to judge somebody’s decision.
Whether it’s good or bad, but every woman can individually make a decision – to give a birth to a child or not.

Yet, a practicing psychotherapist Tatiana Ohneva-Salvoni explained how actually an abortion can affect a woman’s life after, because obviously, such operation will leave its mark.
1. Influence on couple relationships Even if a decision about making an abortion is mutual, it doesn’t mean that a couple will absolutely forget about it and live happily ever after.The fact that they turned out to be unprepared to create a family, already shows that there are some problems which this couple can’t overcome. The trust is harmed, as well as the confidence in the future.
2. Pangs of conscience Even if you came to a decision about abortion or already did it, it doesn’t mean, that you won’t have pangs of conscience. Anyway, you took away a human’s life.
A human, who was a part of your flesh and blood. Don’t think, that it won’t leave a mark on your memory. Pangs of conscience can take you by surprise, but what is done can’t be undone.
3. Influence of your future children There happened to be some cases in psycho-therapeutic practice, when children, who were born after their mother once made an abortion, were growing depressive and couldn’t adapt to the life. As if somehow such children don’t feel that they should enjoy the life because their predecessors weren’t destined to come into the world.
4. Neurotic feeling of guilt This influence differs from pangs of conscience because it’s imposed by society. A woman feels as if the doctors and surrounding persons condemn her action, thus she starts feeling guilty towards everyone, who considers this action as a sin. Again, only you can decide whether to give a life to a child or not, but you should remember that such action will leave a mark on your life forever. If you came to a decision to make an abortion, you should prepare that your life will loose its bright side for some time.
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Sunday 27 November 2016

10 Reasons Passionate Love Can Be the Strongest Love of All


Have you ever felt the kind of love that leaves you feeling dizzy, exhilarated, and wild? Here’s everything you need to know about crazy, passionate love.

Passion is an extremely strong emotion. You can feel it in your very bones, and it’s not easy to get rid of once it’s there. It can even be addicting at times, which is why people say that love can be just like a drug.
Everyone should, at some point in their lifetime, experience this kind of love in one form or another. Unfortunately, not everyone gets to experience it, and this is truly sad, as this kind of passionate love is extremely powerful.
What is passionate love?
Passionate love is different from your average romantic love because passion is a ridiculously strong emotion. In fact, passion is defined as a “strong and barely controllable emotion.”
For this reason, I’m sure you can imagine just how powerful and even dangerous this kind of love can be. However, it’s often short-lived and dwindles down with time until the love either fizzles out completely or it slows down into a long-burning love.
Why passionate love can be the strongest love of all
With passion being one of the strongest emotions a person can feel, and love being right up there with it, putting these two feelings together can make for one hell of an unbreakable pairing. Here’s why passionate love can be the strongest love you’ll ever experience.
#1 It inhibits your logical thinking. It’s actually been scientifically proven that when you fall in love with someone, your frontal lobe basically shuts down. This part of the brain is responsible for your logical thinking and decision-making skills, so quite literally, you don’t even know what you’re thinking or deciding when you’re overcome with passionate love.
#2 It’s short… so you make the most of it. Passionate love in particular is so strong because most relationships built on a ton of passion are the ones that both parties know won’t last forever. As a result, you both do whatever you can to make the most of it.
This allows both of you to really open up to each other in ways that you normally wouldn’t so early on in a relationship. It’s powerful in the way that makes the two of you put everything aside in order to focus on each other, even if for only a fleeting moment in the grand scheme of things.
#3 You almost turn into a different person. Due to the logical thinking portion of your brain taking a vacation when you fall in passionate love, you often behave like someone else completely. You begin saying and doing things that you normally wouldn’t do in a million years.
#4 You don’t make the best decisions. You can probably see how the above reason could lead to your making some not-so-great decisions when you’re struck with passionate love. Since your brain has basically turned into mush when you have so much passion running through your veins, your decision-making skills aren’t exactly up to par.
This means that you could make some terrible decisions *like getting married after only a couple of weeks* that you would normally avoid if you were thinking clearly.
#5 You risk a lot more when you’re in passionate love. The dangers of passionate love really come to light when you start taking more risks with your new significant other. And this doesn’t just include marrying someone you barely know.
You could also forgo protection during sex and could end up having a child with someone, only to realize that the two of you could never work out. Unfortunately, this realization comes only after the passion has subsided.
#6 You’re more vulnerable. Another danger of passionate love is how vulnerable you can become. Passion can make you unlock all the barriers to your deepest, darkest secrets. This could leave you completely vulnerable to this new person.
In the same respect, this could also lead to other complications and even heartbreak if the other person doesn’t have the best intentions. And we all know that some people will use passion to their advantage in order to get what they really want.
#7 You can mistake fleeting, passionate love for the real thing. Passion is so strong that it can actually trick you into thinking that you’re truly in love with someone when, in reality, it’s just passion heightening those feelings. The truth is that sometimes, the most passionate love you can have isn’t really love at all.
This can be terrible because you can make decisions with your significant other, thinking that they’re the one you’re going to be with forever *like getting married*, only to find out that it wasn’t true love at all. It was just passion masking your true feelings. 
#8 You can ruin a great thing if you go too hard too soon. It’s no secret that passion drives relationship. It’s the force behind the first move, the first kiss, and getting in the sheets for the first time. And with passionate love, all of these can happen REALLY quickly, sometimes all within the first night.
But moving too fast can ruin a relationship that could otherwise be fantastic. If there’s too much passion behind your actions, you could end up ruining the relationship before it truly has time to develop into something beautiful.
#9 It can completely change your perception of love. Some people have a hard time finding love. Because of this, they even go so far as to say that love doesn’t exist at all. But those people have probably never felt the full effects of passionate love.
After someone falls so passionately in love, they will have a completely different perception of what love truly is. They will start believing in love 100%, because passion has that much power. Passion can make you understand love on a whole different level—one that you may not have even known existed.
#10 Passionate love can drive the longest relationships *with the right person*. The best and most powerful thing about passion is that if you’re with the right person, it can fuel a relationship to last longer than you’d ever imagined. Passion isn’t always a fleeting emotion in a relationship.
If you’re with the right person and the passion transitions from a flaming fire to a slow, burning love, it can last longer than a lifetime. It can last an eternity.
Passionate love isn’t always the best thing for your relationship. But while it has its dangers, it can also transform into something truly beautiful. Heed our warnings and tread lightly, but don’t be afraid to embrace your passion if the right one comes along.
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6 Reasons to Love Yourself First Before Falling in Love

For most of us, love is an exciting torrent of emotions. But for the one who doesn’t know how to be loved, it’s even more overwhelming.

Falling in love is perhaps the most beautiful and chaotic experience one can have all at once. It is that exhilarating rush one gets when one dives into unfamiliar waters. It is getting lost in a wonderfully strange world and not wanting to look back.
So many of us are like lost and wandering souls, looking for someone who would fill that empty void within ourselves. We are like incomplete puzzles, searching for our missing piece, our life mate. We desire someone who would give us the real feeling of love, of what it is like to love and be loved in return.
Love yourself first
Love is a very strange thing. Many go searching for it, wanting so desperately to find it that they ultimately lose themselves in the quest of finding love. Perhaps one of the most profound lessons one can learn in life is to fall in love with oneself first, in a non-selfish manner.
It is the kind of love that can never run out. It is the kind of love that makes you learn self-appreciation. Self-love is essential for allowing real love to fall into place.
Unfortunately, loving oneself is easier said than done. After all, love is a very mysterious thing, and not even the best-versed poet can capture its charms. The truth is self-love, much like love for another person, can get ultimately frightening and wonderful at the same time.
We are often told that one cannot truly love you, if you do not know how to love yourself first. Growing up, I would often wonder what these words meant. For the longest time, I had my doubts if these words would hold any meaning to my life.
However, experience has taught me that in order to allow love, real love to enter our lives, I would ultimately have to undergo the tedious and often humbling process of loving myself. Why? Because how can we give our love away when we don’t have any for ourselves?
What is it like to fall in love without self-love?
You can be willing to give your all to someone you love, but what happens when you give them your all without leaving some love for yourself?
#1 We often think ourselves unworthy of being loved in return. To love is a great feeling. To be loved in return, that is an even greater feeling. It is ultimately fulfilling to have this love be reciprocated. However, when one feels unworthy of another’s love, the concept of love can be hard to comprehend.
We can never fully allow our partner to love us for who we are, because we ultimately fear something, whether it is being hurt or that the prospect of having another human being in our lives scares us. Finding ourselves unworthy of being loved is a tragedy in itself because, everyone deserves love. It is a far too precious commodity to not be shared.
#2 We often find ourselves to be lost in self-doubt. The first few months of a relationship are usually filled with feelings of bliss. However, when one has not learned to fully love oneself, one may find themselves continually asking, “Is this what I really want?” or “What am I doing here?”
Self-doubt can cause feelings of disillusionment in the relationship, which will only lead to feelings of discontent and, in a way, awe of what’s happening. When this happens, you feel like you are caught in between here and there, wanting to go another way, but always finding reasons to stay. When you succumb to the doubt of whether or not you can pull through, the odds of pulling through won’t be in your favor.
#3 It gives you feelings of restlessness. Being restless in a relationship makes your mind and heart wander. When you find that your heart is restless, you can never really be happy with what you have.
You find yourself constantly questioning the relationship in itself, because you keep wondering if this is what you deserve or if this is what’s good for you or if your partner will stay despite your shortcomings. The concept of having someone love you may be too overwhelming for you, especially when you haven’t learned to accept your own flaws.
#4 You often feel like your relationship will suddenly end. Falling in love is indeed a dangerous thing, because the concept of time is involved. Looking back on experience, I can say that there is no such thing as “forever,” because nothing really lasts.
I would believe in the more real statement, “I love you for as long as you will have me.” Love, like happiness, ultimately becomes a choice, and the so-called “honeymoon period” will eventually die down. When one hasn’t learned to love oneself, there will be the anxious feeling that the relationship will end and you feel like you are hanging by a thread.
#5 Insecurities will always play a major part of your relationship. Let us all accept this one truth: there will always be someone better than you. For a time, I was plagued with insecurities, but I would eventually come to accept my insecurities. Every day, I am still learning.
Insecurity will always lead you to doubt your partner. You will constantly wonder if your partner is cheating on you, or if they will leave you, or if you will ever be good enough. Remember that there is a lot of beauty in this world, and you are beautiful in your own right. Remember this: your partner chose you.
#6 It will make you keep coming back to what broke you. When the relationship does end, everyone goes through a mourning period. Sometimes, when one hasn’t taken a chance to pause and do some introspection, they go back to what broke them in the first place.
This is a destructive habit because you will never know what you truly want and it doesn’t give you the chance to fully heal. In order to love yourself, you must have a chance to be alone and not go back to the same destructive ways that caused your world to come crashing down in the first place.
I realized that in order to find someone who would love me for me, I had to accept myself for who I was, no pretentions. After all, let’s be honest, if you cannot be true to yourself, how can you be true to others?
When you have learned to love yourself for who you are, warts and all, the right love, the one that you ultimately need, will land at your feet and you don’t have to chase for it.
After all, true love, as I am told, need not be chased, but rather it comes unexpectedly. Love yourself, and your self-love will attract the right one.
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How to know if a Girl is Falling in Love With You

And yet understanding how she feels, particularly as your connection matures and deepens, is important for a healthy relationship. In this piece, we’ll explore the most prominent signs of love, and why they’re so important to spot.
Why you need to be able to tell if a girl is falling in love with you
There are two main reasons you need to know if a girl is falling in love with you. First, if you think you might be falling in love with her, you’ll want to know that your feelings are reciprocated, or at least what the future of the relationship might look like. On the other hand, if you’re just interested in dating her casually, it’s important to know if she feels more strongly. Perhaps you’ll want to break things off or slow them down, but at the very least you’ll want to have the information you need to make sure you’re both on the same page when it comes to the nature of your relationship. Knowing how she feels at every step is essential.
The three stages of love
A fascinating report covered by the BBC explores the three stages of love. While love is obviously a complex phenomenon that differs from person to person, breaking it down into phases can help us understand how love evolves. The first phase is called lust, which is the testosterone-driven period when you can’t wait to tear each other’s clothes off. The second is called attraction, when each of you is constantly thinking about the other, and is driven by dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine. Finally, attachment develops. This is when you get through the anxiety of attraction and move into a more settled form of being in love driven by oxytocin and vasopressin.
That third phase is where relationships become “serious,” and that is when you want to know if you and your girl are on the same page. So how do you know that a girl is moving into that third, more specific and serious form of romance?
She cuts off other guys
In this age, it’s not uncommon for girls to date several people at once. She’s playing the field and playing the market to see what’s out there. It’s only when she really starts making a connection with one man that she puts the brakes on other relationships to focus on the one she cares about the most. Once this happens, you can be sure she’s taking you more seriously.
When she signals exclusivity to you, she thinks you’re worth investing all of her romantic time and effort into. That’s something people generally only do when they’re starting to fall in love.
She starts making plans for the both of you
Plans for the both of you can be big or small. Small plans include dates or even weekends away for the two of you. Larger plans include weekend trips, family events and full vacations. More than the specific activity, however, it’s the assumption behind a plan that sends a signal: If she plans a date that’s six months away, for example, she clearly doesn’t expect the two of you to break up. You generally find that kind of long-term commitment from people who are in love.
Then, of course, there are Big Plans. Talking about the two of you moving in together is probably the most obvious example, but it doesn’t have to be quite so extreme. She might, for instance, ask you questions about transferring her job at work. Would you go with her? Would you do the long-distance thing? She’s planning for herself, of course, but she’s including you in those plans — building a life that involves you for the long haul, and considering your interests along the way. When someone starts planning their life around you, it’s usually because they’re in love.
She gives you meaningful gifts
Gifts speak volumes, especially when they’re given by a woman. When a woman gets you a gift, she likely put some thought into it as a signal of how much she cares.
A meaningful gift doesn’t have to be (and often isn’t) very expensive. On the contrary, a meaningful gift is one that lets you know that she really gets you, that communicates her affection without regard for money. Maybe you mentioned a book that you really want to read, and a few days later she surprises you with a paperback copy. Or maybe you talked about a cartoon you liked as a kid, and she grabs you an old copy at a yard sale for your office.
The point here is what your mother used to say: It’s the thought that counts. If she’s giving you gifts that require thought or special attention to what you say, she might be communicating something very meaningful — that she’s falling in love with you.
She finds your faults and quirks endearing
Everyone has faults and quirks that can rub other people the wrong way. But love does a funny thing to people. It transforms those idiosyncrasies from something irritating into something endearing. This might be one of the clearest signs of love.
Telling you how “cute” your differences are isn’t just accepting and appreciating you for who you are. It’s her trying to tell you she gets you in a way that other people don’t, likely because she loves you.
She talks about you as a couple
Listen for the collective pronoun “we” when your girl starts talking about you. With that small shift, she’s considering you as a unit, and it might be because she’s in love. You’re no longer just some guy she’s dating, even if the two of you are exclusive. You’re someone whose happiness she sees as inseparable from her own. This is a more subtle version of her starting to make plans for the two of you, but don’t be surprised if they come together. Language reflects emotion.
She tells you
This should be obvious, but sometimes our own perceptual filters get in the way. It can be easy to hear a girl say that she loves you and still doubt that she’s “really” in love with you. But if she chooses to drop this on you for the first time, she’s probably in love. We don’t risk such large statements if there isn’t at least a kernel of truth to them. If she says the words, then she probably means it — or at least feels some very strong emotions that are creating the experience of love. So listen for and acknowledge the significance of those three words.
What to do when you think she’s in love with you
Once you realize that she’s in love with you, it’s time to act on that knowledge. You might just want to celebrate that you’re both feeling the same way — that’s one of the most exciting discoveries in a relationship. But if her feelings are more serious than yours, or you’re just not feeling the same way, you might want to have a respectful and open conversation with her. No one likes feeling rejected or out of step, so tread lightly, but be honest and straightforward. There’s no reason to let her keep going further down the path of love when you’re just not feeling it.
Either way, recognizing when a girl is falling in love with you can help you to enrich and define your relationship. Finding out that she’s in love with you might just be the start of something wonderful and new.
Credit: theartofcharm.com
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Man Robbed Of $18,000 Rolex By Woman He Slept With

A man staying at a New York hotel was robbed of his $18,000 Rolex by a woman he took home. The 33-year-old was staying at a Midtown hotel on November 3, when he realized the woman swiped his watch.
Police said the victim met the woman inside the Faces & Names lounge on W 54th St around 1am, the New York Daily News reported.
He then invited the woman up to his room at the Park Central Hotel on Seventh Avenue.  Police said the victim woke up the next day around 10am and the woman was gone.
And to his surprise, so was his $18,000 Rolex.  Authorities are still investigating the incident.
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